If you’re single on Valentine’s Day, you’re going to love my solo date ideas at home!
Whether you just went through a breakup and want to say, “A,B,C,D,E, F – U..”, or, you’re happily single on Valentine’s Day and wanting some ideas for how to spend the day, your girl Geeves has you covered from morning to night!
FYI… This Valentine’s Day will start off nice and end naughty. I’ll even give you a “girls best friend”.. literally.. that’s what is called.
Get Ready for a Safe and Sexy Solo Date at Home this Valentine’s Day
If anyone has experience being single, it’s yours truly. I didn’t lose my V card until well into my 20s and have most recently been single for almost 5 years. But, I’ve also learned something too… I really enjoy my own company and would rather be single than be with someone I don’t enjoy.
But still… Sometimes being single on Valentine’s Day is like being sick on your birthday (true story) or having a Lupus flare up on your vacation. (also true story) It feels like the worst timing…
But, just because you are single on Valentine’s Day, does not mean that the day has to suck.
Let’s dive into 9 steps to enjoying the perfect solo date on Valentine’s Day. Because guess what girly? You don’t need anyone but your own sweet, sweet company to enjoy Valentine’s Day. Let’s put ourselves first for a change.
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9 Steps for the Best Solo Date if You’re Single on Valentine’s Day
Step 1: Morning Of, Set Your Day Off Right
As Audrey Hepburn said in, Funny Face… if you want to be lovely and charming, you gotta be happy!
Every day when I wake up, I have a morning ritual, which includes saying something positive out loud to myself. I learned this from a woman on my Iceland solo female trip a few years ago. You’d be surprised… It sets your day off to an amazing start.
If you tell yourself you’re going to have a great day, you’re most likely going to have a great day.
Start the day with your favorite tea or candy, light a candle and say a positive affirmation out loud. Something like: “Today, I’m going to have a special Valentine’s Day with myself”.
Then, give yourself a hug. I know that sounds weird but trust me, it totally works. Self fulfilled prophecy is so powerful and underrated! As grown ups, we forget how much self love is necessary.
As I talk about in my New Year’s blog, self care is so important. What does it look like for you?
Step 2: The Food & Drinks
You know all those foodie cravings you usually have? Let’s take it to the next level and make it Valentine’s Day themed. I’m talkin hearts, shades of pink and red… all that over the top, girly, “extra” stuff.
What’s on the Valentine’s Day Menu?
Don’t be afraid to brain dump your ideas. I like Pinterest for this. Lay it out on a vision board or create a cutesy Valentine’s Day menu if it helps you plan better.
For girlies who like to cook, I’m going to share dinner and dessert recipes. Also, what to order in if you prefer to relax and let someone else pamper you. It’s your day queen… 😉
♡ Cook Dinner at Home
Good news! There are so many ways to put a cutesy VDay spin on your favorite recipes by plating your dish!
What’s for Dinner?
You’d be amazed at just how many places offer Valentine’s Day dinners for takeout and delivery. If your favorite gourmet restaurant in town doesn’t offer delivery, try curbside pickup. Most places offer it these days.
With Goldbelly, you can order a ready to cook meal kit and full-on Valentine’s Day dinners from your favorite restaurants, even the Michelin ones. 😉
Feeling spontaneous? Try a themed Valentine’s recipe.
Plating your meal can take a dish from yummy to over the top especially when there’s a good theme! So fun! It’s as simple as piping sauce in the shape of a heart or forming the rice in a heart-shaped bowl or cookie cutter.
♡ Bake Dessert at Home
Okay, I’m all for themes but these desserts take it to the next level. Here are some desserts whether you’re a broken hearted or happy singleton.
- Dessert for the Angry
“You broke my heart bitch”
You’re totally entitled to bake a “You Broke My Heart Smash Cake” and stab it to death like Taylor Swift did in Blank Space. You do you girl.
Or take less violent measures, hammer a chocolate heart instead. 😉
- Dessert for the Sad
“Chocolate is the only one who loves me”
Heal your broken heart instead with a Broken Heart Chocolate Cake.
- Dessert for the Happy
“Single and lovin it!”
Happy singletons can just plate any of those desserts with rose petals and self-love. 😊
Did You Know…
That at San Antonio Zoo’s “Cry Me a Cockroach” fundraiser, you can name a cockroach after your ex which will be fed to an animal on Valentine’s Day? If your ex was a snake, name a rat after him instead. 😉
What’s For Dessert?
Or, maybe you want to skip dinner all together and just snack on sweets and tasty goodies all day. You go girl!
Goldbelly also offers gourmet snacks and desserts from all over the country, shipped right to your door! They even have dessert meal kits!
Valentine’s Day Sweets
Step 3: Flowers
♡ Treat yourself to a beautiful flower arrangement
Urban Stems offers arrangements for every occasion including Valentine’s Day, delivered by hand.
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Step 4: Valentine’s Day Cocktails
♡ Craft Your Own Cocktails
What’s a VDate without a craft cocktail or bubbly? Plan a themed cocktail for the evening. Then, pour yourself a drink (or two)!
Let’s pop open that bubbly and cheers to the best VDay you’ve had in a while. Don’t forget to pour a glass for yours truly. 😉
This clever cocktail mixology website shows you how to create a drink with what you have. It also tells you ingredients to get to make even more cocktails.
Valentine’s Day Drinks For Every Girls’ Tastebuds
They’re pink, they’re sweet, they’re fabulous! Serve with an iced heart. 😉
Valentine’s Day Cocktails
Any of these can be made into a mocktails by swapping the alcohol for something bubbly, juicy, or flavorful.
1. French Martini
For the romantic softie, this is a light pink cocktail topped with a raspberry that feels sweet, bubbly, and a little fancy. Perfect for slow sipping and pretending you’re in a rom-com.
Recipe here.
2. Cherry Bourbon Smash
For the bourbon beauty who orders whiskey neat
This drink is bold but smooth, with a hint of cherry sweetness that makes it feel extra special. It’s cozy, classy, and keeps you on your toes.
Recipe here.
3. Strawberries & Cream Martini
For the glam Valentine, this one is creamy, fruity, and feels like a dessert in a glass. Perfect for getting dressed up at home and feeling fancy for no reason at all.
Recipe here.
4. Pomegranate Aperol Spritz
For the bubbly personality, this one is fresh, sparkly, and super refreshing, this cocktail is light enough to drink all night. It’s the kind of drink that makes you want to laugh and dance in the kitchen.
Recipe here.
5. The Dark Chocolate Dream
For the hopeless romantic who’s a little on the bolder side, this martini is rich, chocolatey, and a little indulgent, this one feels like a Valentine’s dessert and cocktail in one. Best enjoyed slowly with candles lit and music on low.
Recipe here.
6. Mary Pickford
What better cocktail for our Solo Female V-Date than one named after a lovely lady. For the rum lovers, this is a classic Prohibition-era cocktail created in the 1920s in Havana, Cuba, named after the famous Canadian American silent film actress “America’s Sweetheart”. It’s a rum-based tropical cocktail known for its pink hue, sweet flavor, and smooth, punchy character.
Recipe here.
Take out the alcohol and replace it with something bubbly, juicy, or flavorful.
Make These Cocktails into Mocktails
Instead of vodka or gin
Use sparkling water, tonic water, or lemon soda
Instead of whiskey or bourbon
Use cold brew tea, apple juice, or cherry juice
Instead of champagne or prosecco
Use sparkling grape juice or plain sparkling water
Instead of liqueurs
Use flavored syrups, fruit juice, or a splash of bitters if you like.
Step 5: Set the Scene
Dinner Table Decor for Valentine’s Day
♡ Set the Table
Set your dinner table in style with Valentine’s Day linens and heart accents such as plates and napkin rings. It’s the little details that make the difference!
Step 6: Get Dolled Up
You don’t need a man (or woman) to dress up for. This is our solo date after all. And we want to look, smell, and feel amazing. Your solo girl’s date is all about pampering yourself.
♡ Time to look and feel your best!
Start by taking a nice, hot, steamy shower. Maybe put on a nice face mask… Always does the trick for me. 😉
Then, do your make up and nails!
Dashing Diva has a great selection of cruelty-free nail gel strips and sticks on’s that are quick & easy- no mess! Not to mention safe! No salon required. They also have Valentine’s Day-themed nails!
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Look Amazing
You know that cute dress you’ve been saving but haven’t had a date to wear it to? Now’s the time! Wear it just for you beautiful.
Smell Amazing
Spritz some perfume… something that makes you feel how you want to feel…. sexy, beautiful, strong.
What’s a scent that makes me feel powerful? Cleopatra by Tocca… I always get so many compliments (from both men and women). It’s seriously mesmerizing!
The amazing thing about Tocca is that they embrace female individuality and encourage women to love themselves. Their intoxicating line of perfumes helps us to do that.
Just like us, each scent is unique and named after women. Each perfume reflects her life, style, and one-of-a-kind desires, dares, and dreams. It’s basically your essence wrapped up in a bottle. Find one that speaks to your personality.
Their perfumes are beautifully bottled and packaged and chic. Try a perfume sampler to find your signature scent. Or, try a new one each of your moods every day. 😉
Your Special Evening
You look good, feel good. Now it’s time to set the scene and enjoy your evening!
Set the table with a nice table runner and cloth napkins… put out the flowers, light a candle..
This is your time. Enjoy your own company however you like it best. Because you are the best. And deserve the best. Even if you’re giving it to yourself. No one can make you feel better in this moment than you.
Have dinner while watching a romantic movie… or screw romance, watch something funny.. and silly like Mean Girls, Bring it On, or Clueless… girl dramas are always fun.
Step 7: Bath Time
Now, you’re about to get settled in for the night… Here’s how to make the cutest bubble bath for some you time!
♡ The Perfect Bath
Step 1: Turn on some music… whatever sets the mood right… jazz always does it for me… “Alexa, play Chet Baker radio on Pandora“.
Step 2: Light a few candles, throw a bath bomb in, and get your cute booty in that tub.
Step 3: Pour yourself another cocktail or, some yummy hot cocoa. Pair it with the cutest dessert charcuterie board.
Bathtub Sweets & Bubbly
What are you craving for your bathtime dessert buffet?
You know… those high-cal snacks you usually reserve for PMS. The “top shelf” goodies.
I know what you’re thinking… but I just mentioned dessert! Yes, but that was dessert after dinner. What about bathtime dessert? What’s a bath without a lil something sweet and a lil something bubbly?
This is VDay so, the good stuff. More inventive. A tinge of something “extra” like Valentine’s Day Cupcakes or, treat yourself to a delicious pre-made charcuterie and cheese board.
After your bath, light some more candles (you can never have too many IMO). And lather up with a yummy body butter all over… feel your silky smooth skin…
You’re so gorgeous, girl!
Step 8: Slip into Something That Makes You Feel Good Tonight
Now, put something on that reflects how you want to feel.. don’t know bout you babe but sexy night wear totally does that for me…
Don’t wait to feel cute and sexy and love your life without someone to appreciate it. Do it for you. Just for you.
What’s Your Night Time Mood?
Wanna feel sexy?
Wanna feel cozy? Put on a plush robe and velvety slippers or adorable jammies and socks.
Wanna rock what your mama gave ya? Go au naturale babe…
Slip-on some lingerie, a spritz of perfume, lipgloss... 💋
Step 9: Love yourself, pleasure yourself
♡ A lil self lovin’…
You’ve had a yummy meal, you’re relaxed and smell amazing, your skin is glowing, time to get in the mood…
Toys
Sex Toys are all about embracing your womanhood and enjoying the amazing sensations that come from within our own bodies. There’s so much pleasure that comes from feeling confident and comfortable with ourselves even during solo playtime.
But toys don’t have to be big, intimidating, and vulgar. They can be cute, small, and girly. We’re feminine beauties after all. And just like Valentine’s Day, we’re special and cute as hell!
- Vesper by Crave
This is one of my favorite vibrators… it’s petite, discreet, and convenient. I even wear it as jewelry and no one is the wiser. It even comes in 24k gold if you’re feeling fancy. 😉 - OhMiBod is known as “the OG of sex technology”.
I love knowing that OhMiBod has a selection of vibrators that are made for women by women (female-owned and operated). Who better to create our sex toys for us?
Their vibrators are girly, fun, cute, discreet, and even have hearts! Umm.. hello, perfect for V-Day.
- Lovelife Cuddle Mini
“Petite & Discreet” mini-golf spot massage with super cute packaging. Even comes with a satin pouch. The perfect VDay gift to yourself.
- Girl’s Best Friend, 2 in 1 Vibe
Even comes in lavender & periwinkle!
That’s a Wrap
So there you have it! The Ultimate Guide to a Perfect Solo Valentine’s Day Date! Cheers to you, girly. I hope you’re going to have a lovely Valentine’s Day. You don’t need anyone but yourself to enjoy it.
What does your perfect solo date at home look like? Were they any of the things that I mentioned? Comment below! I’d love to hear from you.
